100+ links…

August 20, 2007

When we put the directory up, we had 63 sites. At the last count today, we had 108!

Thanks to everyone who has linked to us and mentioned us – we really appreciate it, and we hope that you are seeing the first signs of traffic from here – and that you are enjoying the illustrious company you are keeping.

We’re still working on more links for the visual part, so please keep the suggestions coming.


Sugasm #92

August 14, 2007

The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #93? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.

This Week’s Picks
Do one thing every day that scares you…
“What I didn’t know what that it would turn me on as much as it hurt me.”

Interview With Deborah Jeane Palfrey, AKA The DC Madam
“I wanted to see coverage treating sex workers as just that-workers.”

Rough Sex – with pictures

“She bites, she writhes, she moans, she claws- none of which she can remember after.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself
Keep Britain Tidy, Gimp

Editor’s Choice
In Her Mind, the Pigeons Were Always Fucking

More Sugasm
Join the Sugasm

See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each Tuesday and Friday.

(Sugasm participants should re-post all the links above. The following links may be excluded as long as you include all the above links.)

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships
Homosexual myths
Sexual powerlessness
That Thorny Bisexual Thing….
Weird things happen every day

BDSM & Fetish

Asking For A Caning
Bully (working title)
The Challenge, part 1
Every blog should have a slave…
Half-Nekkid Tattoo 2
Happy HNT – Tit flash in a boat
Overpower, part 2

Request, granted

Sex Poetry
Heaven is a place
Tonight I’m going to
Vodka Confessions

Sex Audio & Podcasts
Musical Intro #2: sexual nostalgia (Mixed Media.)
Nobilis Erotica 29 — Someone New

Erotic Writing and Experiences
Catalina loves Penelope and Odysseus
Devil’s Last Dance (PJ story)
The Dream
I’m A Woman Man: Episode 5 – Hands
The Most Famous Cock in the World
My slum goddess
Vignette: 3 #2

Sex News
The Birth of The Eye of Venus
Errotica archives
Which One of My subs Is This???

Sex Humor
Kink In The Mainstream – Family Guy In Texas

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio

Britney Caught topless with a Stranger in Hotel Pool
Half-Nekkid and Proud to Be Me
Half-Nekkid Thursday: Begging to Be Spanked
Red Handed Porn
Zurich (nsfw)


August 10, 2007

We’ve divided the written links into three preliminary subcategories: Erotic Writing, D/s – BDSM, and Sex, Etc.  The links are in the sidebar on the main page, otherwise they are on the bottom.  Yes, we’d like them at the top, too, but apparently the software won’t allow us to do that.  This is why we need ads – so that we can upgrade as soon as possible.

If you feel that you have been put in the wrong category, let The Curator know, and he’ll happily move you.

Lack of Eye Candy

August 9, 2007

We are sadly missing links from the Visuals category. This is partly because we are more familiar with written blogs, and partly because we turned our attention to that category last. The fact is that once you get into photographic and artistic blogs the Ooh! Look! Shiny! factor becomes overwhelming, and we got overwhelmed, followed links like maniacs, and lost track of where we’d been and who we’d emailed, and just generally lost the plot.

So if you know of any wonderful sites that you think we should include, please let us know, and in the meantime we’ll continue to plow our way through the many sites we have bookmarked.

Two conversations:

“OK, say you went to one of these directories, and you found my site in amongst all these XXXX Nude Teen Boobies and Cuties Anally-Reamed by Humungous Dicks!!! What would you do?”
“I’d bookmark it till later, and go back to it after I’d got my rocks off.”
“Huh. You wouldn’t get your rocks off on my site?”
“Er… sure, honey. But I’d still look at the naked boobies first.”

“I wish there was another site just for decent writing and photography, and I wasn’t getting lost in porn in all these directories.”
“Well, we can make one if you want.”
“Really? Can we really?”
“Sure. Let’s do it.”

And so Eye of Venus was born, all out of a petulant wish to avoid having to compete with nymphets with better tits. It is possible that if the parties concerned had known they were going to wear their fingers to the bone and their keyboards to stubs, they might have put the brakes on each other, but not all that likely. In their initial euphoria they envisaged an idealistic virtual coffee shop populated by all their favorite bloggers, a place where they could hang out in eclectically sexy company chatting and debating, whilst swigging a virtual cappuccino or a cocktail (it was a coffee shop with a liquor license, apparently), whilst eavesdropping on an orgy, or a whipping, or some tender loving sex, or learning something about sexual politics. On sober reflection, they decided to concentrate on collecting some links and getting a site up first, before getting too carried away.

The technically incompetent person was put in charge of PR, begging emails, and general bossing about. The unfortunate technically competent person found themselves doing all the donkey work, and having to be polite whilst fielding remarks of an: “OK, now you’ve done all that, can we just change it a bit?” nature. By some miracle, no sex bloggers were injured in the creation of this directory, and none were driven to violence.

So. The directory is up, and the company contained within is illustrious. Many bloggers were approached, many answered, and a gratifying number offered encouragement and assistance. Some didn’t answer, possibly because they didn’t investigate their spam folders. Some answered with reservations, and subsequently accepted graciously. Some were never approached, either because they had no immediately apparent contact address, or because the PR person had resorted to petulance again, and was hunched sobbing over a keyboard, wailing: “I can’t do it any more! I can’t send another email!” and had to have a little lie down. Some of those, gratifyingly, signed up of their own free will.

The site is up, and the links are pretty great, not to say pretty fucking impressive. There is even a button (instructions in the sidebar). There will soon be an RSS feed. Someday there will be a proper members area. Sometime soon the extra bits will be cleared away, and in the meantime there is this: a proper blog. But for the moment we feel rather like new parents – thrilled and excited, but wondering when the exhaustion is going to wear off, and the baby will sleep through the night.

A heartfelt thank you again to everyone, and if we’re slow in answering emails don’t worry, we’re just negotiating the teething problems.

Thank you

August 9, 2007

Thanks to everyone who has agreed to be linked, visited, said lovely things, offered support, and even mentioned us on their blogs. We’re still moving in here – painting walls and shifting furniture and laying carpets and squabbling about what needs doing next – but we’ll get to everything in time, we promise.

In the meantime, we’ve added more sites, and instructions for linking to us using our fabulous button are to be found in the sidebar under Main Menu, and now we even have this blog.

This was the text of our original email:

This is a blatant plea for site submissions, for a brand new sex blog directory (and of course, we use the term “sex blog” in coolly ironic tones, acknowledging the huge range of types of writing and content included in that broad and overarching term).

Born out of a desire to have a source for “quality” erotic blogs that truly lives up to its name, “Eye of Venus” was created as a repository of intelligent, entertaining, literate and photographic blogs dealing with the myriad facets of sex. Blogs submitted will be selected by merit, using our own rigorous and possibly quirky criteria. Our aim is to provide a service that highlights the best of erotic writing and visuals on the web, and to keep our standards consistently high.

Here is where we are forced to admit to a certain level of intellectual snobbery. This directory was created by sex bloggers, for sex bloggers tired of finding their work lost in a morass of “sex blogs” featuring badly-lit tits, asses and money shots (charming though they are, in their own way). We intend to keep this directory selective, and are approaching you as we feel you represent the quality we are looking for. We would very much appreciate your support in our quest to promote world domination of the superior sex blog.

As we are just getting started, what we propose is this: if you graciously agree/are pantingly eager to be included, then please reply to this email and we’ll put your link up, with your permission, as soon as we have the requisite number to links, and let you know as soon as we have done so.

This was the text of the follow up to the “yes” people:

Thank you so much for agreeing to be linked to Eye of Venus. It has taken a little longer than we initially anticipated to get up and running, due to the technical difficulty that is life, and we apologize for the delay. If we have included you as a “yes”, and linked to you, when you were really a “maybe”, or even a “wtf? no way!” then please let us know, and we’ll take your link down immediately (any mistakes are due to the technical difficulty known as incompetence on the part of the Compiler of Lists). If you were a “yes” and have changed your mind, let us know and we’ll take your link down as well.

The story behind this site is quite simple. We wanted another source of quality blogs and sites to add to the few specialised sites highlighting great writing and pics in existence, and we hope it will benefit all of you in bringing in traffic. There are no nefarious plans to capitalize on anyone’s good name, or exploit our members in any way. In fact, we have a rather rose-tinted view of the whole thing being a happy haven for purveyors of erotica. We plan on having an RSS feed on the front page, and will try to keep the news section updated with any future plans and suggestions – one of the original ideas was to include a forum for members. There will be advertising, in order to keep the site afloat, but only in the best possible taste, of course.

At the moment we only have two general categories: Literate and Visual, because the amount of decision-making entailed so far has been making our tiny heads explode as it is. Any suggestions for subcategories, and indeed any suggestions at all, will be gratefully received and possibly implemented at our whim. We are not asking for links back, but obviously they would be very much appreciated – and we even have a groovy button for those who prefer them to text links.

Thank you so much, again, and a particularly grateful thank you to all those who have offered support and assistance – you have no idea how much it is appreciated. We’re very excited about this project, and we hope it serves you well.

If you didn’t get one of these, and think you should have been included, there are a number of reasons:

1) We couldn’t find a contact address on your blog

2) You should check your spam folder

3) You were on the list when exhaustion and blog-overload hit.

4) We don’t think you’re that great

5) You are great, but we just haven’t come across you yet, and for that we apologize

If you think we should have contacted you, then please submit your site.